Please, thank you....

Two simple phrases, "Please" and "Thank you"...they can make all the difference in the world on how you are perceived by others and the impact you make on someone else's day. I have experienced, over the last 5+ years, the difference between someone who always says please and thank you, vs. someone who hardly uses the two phrases (at least when dealing with me, go figure). When I moved in with my grandparents in 2006, it was to help them out around the house and to help take care of my aunt who was suffering senile dementia...not an easy task. My auntie was sweet, appreciative and had an loving innocence that the harshest conditions in life never stole away from her. And my grandfather was the same... stubborn (I now know where I got it from), but always showed his appreciation. "Jenn, when you have a chance, could you please take me to get my hair cut? Thank you." "Could you please look up the Dodger's schedule for me? Thanks." I would be thanked before the act was even done. And always thanked after it was done. Buy my grandmother is different in every way imaginable. Rather than ask, she tells...."I'm out of milk, you know." "I can't open this jar, the lid is too tight." "If you're too tired to cook, then go and get something." It's a harsh environment to try to be a loving caretaker. I have had to restrain myself many times from speaking my mind and other actions that would be frowned upon by many. So I feel the need to remind everyone to show your appreciation. Let someone know they are important to you and have value. When you ask your co-worker for a favor, say PLEASE, even if it's just to hold the elevator door. And when your spouse prepares dinner, tell them THANK YOU, whether it was a 4 course extravaganza or "just" take out. It will put a smile an their face and remind them what a good person YOU are. I always make it a habit of trying to make people smile. If I have a cranky check out person at the store, I will comment on how I like their nail polish or jewelry. I always tell the parking attendant at the hospital, "Thank you. Have a nice day." So go and make someone feel appreciated and valued with PLEASE and THANK YOU, that's all it takes. You are guaranteed a smile and probably a similar greeting in return. And that will make YOUR day!